So, this weeks Fave of the Week comes in the form of a little story, if that’s okay.
I chose to do Fave of the Week about this because someone on ask.fm asked me this question:
Do you ever just think about things you could’ve done different with your life to make it better?
My initial answer was going to be “yes”, because wouldn’t it be the coolest thing ever if we could all go back in time and tell ourselves what we know now? It would save us a whole lot of heartbreak and pain. But then I remembered something that happened to me earlier in the week, and I changed my answer. [ask.fm/argotaashley for the full q&a]
I am constantly learning and growing [all of us are, right?] but I feel like this year has been one gigantic learning experience for me. I’ve always been a big believer in “Everything happens for a reason”, but sometimes that’s hard to remember when life isn’t quite going your way.
A few years ago, someone set something up for me that I was really excited about. Long story short, it fell through. I remember being really upset and confused. Why would this person set something up and then leave me hanging for something so idiotic? Wasn’t I as good as all the other kids? The actions of this person kind of put my music career on hold for a while. I didn’t really complain, since I was still working on a show, which was another dream come true. But it always bothered me that the politics of show business got in the way of real talent getting what they deserved. At the time, I saw it as this incredible opportunity that I had worked my whole life for, that had just been shattered on the ground by one extremely egotistical and selfish person who was only pretending to care.
I saw this person a few times at different events, awkwardly saying hello and making small talk, never bringing up what happened. But every time I saw this person, I swore to myself that I would prove to him that he made a mistake. I used what happened as fuel to work harder and be better. I knew that one day, without me even planning it, karma would come back around.
And this past week, it did. And it was the best feeling in the world. Especially because I didn’t have to do anything but be 100% myself. I think that when it comes to revenge, the only thing better than rubbing it in someones face and fighting with them and pointing fingers, is killing them with kindness and watching from afar as they realize that they have missed their chance.
I guess the point I’m trying to make is that sometimes, when you’re lost in the moment, things happen to you that make you feel like it’s the end of the world. I know I certainly thought it was when this person passed on me. But after a while, I realized that had I worked with this person, I would have been tossed to the side and shelved, which would have made me more than miserable. I wouldn’t have met the people I have in my life right now, which would have changed the trajectory of my entire life and career… And I adore the people I have in my life now. This past week has taught me that every single thing in your life happens for a reason, though we may not realize the reason at the time. As someone close to me always says… “There are no accidents.”
I hope that my sappy little story has inspired you to work through whatever is going on in your life right now, because I guarantee you that soon enough, you’ll find a beautiful reason behind everything that has happened to you.
“I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.” -Douglas Adams
’till next week, loves.